10 Signs a Man is Not Ready to Commit

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Okay, ladies, I know you have these conversations, because I have them all the time with my girlfriends: how do you know a man is ready to commit to you?

We’ve all heard the conventional wisdom that a man should pursue you, should show an interest in being with you, should take you out and wine and dine you. And, for those of us that are Godly women, we have to add the provisions that he must attend church, be filled with the Holy Spirit, and a whole lot of other conditions that go along with it (be kind to his mother, respectful of His pastor, somewhat familiar with the Bible, etc., etc.).

But, once you get past all these ‘qualifications’, how do you know when a man is really ready to commit – to you? I am going to look at that question today in the reverse, and give you the 10 signs that say the man with whom you are involved is definitely not ready to commit. They are as follows:

1. He is Noncommittal and Vague About His Feelings

You can never quite get him to admit to the depth (or shallowness) of his feelings for you. You are ‘okay’ or ‘alright’.. He hasn’t made any proclamations about what you mean to him, how important you are to him or what he thinks about you. In the best-case scenario (if your man is not particularly talkative), he shows his feelings, even if he doesn’t tell you about them. He is polite, courteous and responsive to your needs. He cooks for you. He mows the lawn (unasked). Or something along those lines. The worst-case scenario? He doesn’t share any of his feelings with you because he doesn’t have any. The deepest feeling he has for you is the aforementioned ‘alright’. And nobody wants to be just ‘alright’.

2. He Doesn’t Share His Plans With You

You don’t know how he spends his free time. You don’t know who his friends are. You don’t know what his goals are. Yet he seems to have a whole, entire and active life completely apart from you. This is definitely a bad sign. If you are not a significant part of his current life, you are probably not a significant part of his future plans either. If you are in a new relationship, give it some time. But if you still know very little about him after dating him for several months (or several years), this man is quite happy to keep you right where he has you – on the outside looking in.

3. He Doesn’t Answer the Phone When You Call

Yes, I know we all get busy sometimes. I don’t answer my phone at least 30% of the time (I have to work and sleep, you know). But what if he rarely or never picks up? Or he only calls you in response to a message (or several) you’ve left on his phone or because he sees your number on his caller ID? Bad, bad, bad signs. A man who is interested in you wants to talk to you. No matter what else he has going on – work, family, children or whatever. You should be a priority to him (or at least your phone calls should be). If you are not, you need to re-consider him being a priority in your life.

4. He Hasn’t Introduced You to Anyone (or Introduces You as ‘My Friend’)

Okay – this is simple. If a man has not introduced you to anybody he knows (and he at least has a mama, a couple of friends, co-workers, or somebody), you are probably not very important to him in his life. Why do I say that? What’s one of the first things you do when you meet someone (that you really like)? Introduce him to your friends or invite him to go with you to different functions. Men are not so very different from us – if they love having you around, they will invite you to be where they are. And, in the normal course of those invitations, you will meet people who are in his life. If you haven’t, then beware. And, closely related to this sign is this one:

5. He Doesn’t Tell Anyone About You

When you talk to him, he may mention conversations he’s had with his family or friends. He tells you all about these conversations where he discusses baseball games or the basketball finals he watched on tv, the repair he’s having done to his car or how his boss is getting on his nerves. He may even mention to these aforesaid friends and family his weekend plans. But, then you catch on to something – he told them what he was going to do, but not with whom he would be doing those things (namely, you). A simple oversight? An overriding need for privacy? Possibly. But, more than likely, he is not ready for anyone to know of your existence in his life. This could be for a number of reasons, but none of them are good. So, keep up with his mentions of you in his life – it is an important indicator of intent and the seriousness with which he takes your relationship.

6. He Talks About His Future in Terms of ‘I’

When he talks about where he’s going to live, what job he plans on getting or what school he plans to attend, it’s all about him. “I’m” going to move to Florida or “I’m” going to go to the University of Nevada. Or, even when he talks about things that could conceivably involve you, like a future trip, moving from his apartment to his house or even a movie he plans to see, for heaven’s sake, still no mention of you. What should this say to you? That he’s still thinking of himself in terms of being single. It has not yet occurred to him that the relationship he has with you could become more serious. All those “I’s” and lacks of “we’s” is his subconscious way of telling you that he does not consider you to be his serious partner.

7. He Doesn’t Take You Out

Sure, he likes spending time with you – but only in the privacy of his home. Or you have limited outings like to the movies (where nobody can see you) or to the deli to pick up a sandwich at the place around the corner from his house. You don’t do the ‘big’ dates like charity functions, birthday parties, family events or the like. This should tell you something: This man is not ready to be serious with you. A man who wants to be with you will spend time with you in a variety of places – both publicly and privately. And even if he’s not personally very interested in going to the museum, eating out or seeing a movie, he should at least be willing to give it a shot if it means pleasing you. Beware of a man who limits your activity to one specific type of place.

8. He Only Calls Late (aka Treats You Like a Booty Call)

Right. I know that we are all Christians and we are not engaging in late-night conversations with inappropriate men. But, just in case this applies to you (and you are accepting those late-night calls), just understand that he is not serious about you. If he only calls late, you have to ask yourself: what is he doing between the hours of 8am and 9pm? Why can’t he call then? Is he involved with someone else? Is he married or recently separated? Or does he simply see you as a way to get his needs met (whatever they are)? Unless he works a really odd shift, there is no reason that your guy cannot call you at a reasonable hour. Do what seems right to you, but know that late night calls do not equal serious intentions.

9. He Doesn’t Share Personal Information

Have you ever asked yourself why you don’t know where your guy lives? Or where he works? Or you’re not even 100% sure of his last name? Unless you are truly just disinterested (or aren’t inquisitive enough to ask him), it’s probably because he doesn’t want you to know. And why doesn’t he want you to know? He could be hiding something. Or, most likely he doesn’t consider your relationship to be serious enough to share the serious information about his life with you. Don’t think so? Try asking him those questions the next time you see him. His answers (or lack thereof) will speak for themselves.

10. He Doesn’t Take an Interest in Your Activities or Your Future Plans

We’ve already been over the fact that he doesn’t tell you his future plans. But now, to add insult to injury, he doesn’t ask about your plans either. Why is this such a bad thing? Let me ask you something – to what kind of people do you fail to ask questions like these? That’s right – acquaintances or people you barely know. You even talk to your boss (who you can’t stand) about what you plan to do for the weekend. Yet your guy doesn’t ask? Very suspicious. Suspicious enough for you to rightly think that he simply isn’t interested in knowing. Or else – he’d ask. And, believe me, no matter what else you think about him, he is perfectly capable of asking something he wants to know. He’d ‘ask’ about his paycheck if his job stopped paying him. He’d ‘ask’ about his monthly payments if he got a new car. He can ‘ask’ you what your future plans are – if he wants to.

So those are 10 good signs that the man with whom you are involved has no intentions of being serious with you. He may be a good guy – fun to hang out with, good to his dog, kind to his mama – but he has not reached the level of being ready to be committed (at least not to you). If it is a new relationship (a year or less), wait a while and see. But if it has been over a year, your best bet is to keep your options open. Don’t let the opportunity to be involved with someone who is commitment-minded pass you by while you wait on your guy to get a clue. Again, do what you feel is right for you, but put yourself first. Honor your own needs. And try to be with someone who gives you that same respect. And, as always, pray, pray, pray! God will save you even when you don’t want to save yourself! Trust in His guidance and He will always see you through.

And, if you’re curious, the next chapter tells you five steps to discovering if your guy is ‘the one’.

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How Do I Find Out If He is Afraid of Commitment?

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It is not rare for men to be afraid of commitment. There are a variety of reasons for men to be afraid of this big step in a relationship. The most common reasons are: fear of getting divorced, fear of the marriage interfering with his professional and social life, fear of losing interest in you in the long run, a bad experience with a previous marriage, and fear of messing up as a father if children come into the picture. All of these reasons make men afraid of commitment. If he really loves you, he shouldn’t have a problem taking the relationship to the next level.

Finding out if he’s afraid of commitment is really not that hard. You can find out by throwing little hints like asking him to go window shopping for an engagement ring, and asking him how he feels about commitment. If he doesn’t seem excited when he answers these questions and he just seems to be a little thrown off, then that is definitely a sign that he is afraid of commitment. You can also ask him why he doesn’t seem excited about commitment and when you ask him this question, make sure to act like you’re concerned instead of acting like you’re upset with him. This will make him want to open up to you about this problem and it’ll give you a better understanding of where he’s coming from.

After you and he finish talking about this problem, you can just let it go by focusing on being a good girlfriend to him. This will help him lose his fear of commitment and it’ll draw him closer to you. Most men don’t hesitate to take their relationship with their women to the next level just because of the amount of time they’ve been with their women. It does take time for men to take this big step in a relationship just like it takes women time to get ready for it.

The truth is that men also want to make sure that the woman they decide to commit to is the right woman and not just any woman. If he tells you that this is the reason for his fear of commitment, then don’t hesitate to ask him questions about the qualities that he looks for in a spouse. While you’re asking him questions about this sensitive subject, be understanding and not critical because being critical will just increase his fear of committing to you and he might just break it off with you.

No man wants to be criticized, especially when they’re trying to have an important discussion with his girlfriend. This can be hard to do because it’s so easy to be critical, but you have to remember that men think differently about commitment. While women are making a big deal about commitment and looking for the perfect wedding dress, men on the other hand are only thinking about committing to the right woman at the right time.

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Dating Tips – Commitment – 5 Signs That He is Ready

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It’s becoming ever more acceptable to be casual versus committing in a relationship. From swinging married couples, to “friends with benefits”, the word “relationship” takes on a whole new meaning in modern times.

With the current view of relationships so much more relaxed than in the past, it has becoming easier (and less pressure) for many start up new relationships, and just have fun. However it has also become more difficult to now find a more serious, committed relationship. This is even more of a problem when you are starting with a casual relationship that you want to turn more serious.

If you are ready to turn your casual relationship into something more solid, and you think that he may also be ready – but you are not sure – keep your eyes peeled for the following signs of a commitment-ready man.

1. He wants to meet your family – If he wants to meet your family – or he already has – it’s usually a sign that he is ready to move forward. Meeting the family is an important step in announcing your seriousness to the world, or rather the people in the world important to you. By doing this he is showing that it’s also important to him, and that he wants to see if he can fit in with your relatives. Seeing you with your family also lets him get to know a different part of you, growing the relationship naturally.

2. He is an initiator – There’s something to be said about making the first move. You know he’s ready when he is the one calling you to hang out, or when he independently comes up with great activities for you to spend time together doing. Does he answer your calls and emails promptly? Does he call or email you even before you even get a chance to do the same to him? If the answer is yes, chances are he’s ready to move forward.

3. He is financially stable – This one’s a no-brainer. A man who is stable and prepared, is ultimately stabling and preparing himself for a good reason. It’s highly likely that the reason is marriage, or at least a committed relationship, be it with you or another. If he’s at this stage, and let’s you know it, chances are he thinks you are ‘long-term’ material.

4. Using the “We” word – Using terms that unite you, especially in front of others, usually indicate he’s already ahead of you in the commitment department. If you hear the words “we”, “us”, and “our” versus “I”, “me”, and “my” you can be certain that he already considers you a couple, and that he is ready to commit more.

5. His friends are all married, or in deeper relationships – People tend to move with their cohort, and like-minded people tend to move together. If his friends all hit the strip club every weekend, and stay out all night, chances are he’s doing it as well – and doing it because he wants to. If his friends are in relationships, or even married, it’s a good sign that it’s the direction he also sees himself heading towards.

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Relationship Advice for Women – Forgiveness Restores Commitment in Relationships

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When our relationships are right, life is good especially when we can do what we want, when we want. But what happens when someone knowingly wrongs us and refuses to acknowledge or admit it. Our relationship with them is broken and our happiness leaves. So does our joy and peace. We want justice and refuse to be satisfied until we receive what we think we deserve. But justice seems to have lost her sense of balance. Her stumble disrupts our relationships.

Old hurts and pains surface, along with the memories and emotions associated with them. Instead of moving forward in victory, unresolved issues from the past unite with present hurts and shut us down emotionally. Until we unlock the mental prison where we incarcerate others and learn to release them through forgiveness, we are suspended in time and our relationships suffer.

Choosing to forgive someone who has betrayed, violated, abused or mistreated you is not easy to do, even if you are a Christian. Only when you choose to do what pleases God above what pleases you, will you be able to embrace the true concept of forgiveness.

What’s the most awful thing someone has said or done to you? Does that event still hold you captive in the past? If so, are you willing to release the hurt, trust God to restore what the locusts have eaten, and regain an undivided soul to live in the present?

“You don’t know what I have been through,” you may say. It’s true, I don’t know what you’ve been through and I certainly don’t want to minimize your hurt or pain. You may need professional help to resolve some painful issues in your past. Hopefully, at some point you will release the person who has hurt you in the past because you will then be free to move forward and enjoy your present.

Many people have in-law stories because of bad relationships. So do I. After choosing to forgive someone for all the anguish I endured in our relationship, I rejoiced when I heard, “Please come because I need you.”

It is never easy to forgive someone who repeatedly causes you pain in your relationship. Years of unkind words and actions stoked my fires of anger and resentment. Even when I wanted to apply the words of Scripture to our relationship, one moment in the person’s presence ignited my emotional embers to full blown flames.

This is only one of the many areas of forgiveness I have had to deal with in my life. This article is too short to share others. However we can take a quick look at Scripture for an example of how one person chose to handle those who had wronged him and refused to acknowledge or admit it.

Sibling rivalry can be very destructive at times. Genesis 37-50 tells the story of Joseph. His brothers sold him into slavery because they were jealous of his relationship with their father.

Potiphar, Pharaoh’s official, bought Joseph and entrusted everything, except his wife, to him. Joseph obviously was a good looking man who had a tight, muscular body because Potiphar’s wife got the hots for him. When Joseph refused her advances, she claimed he raped her. Of course Joseph’s relationship with Potiphar was broken after being falsely accused. Potiphar had no problem throwing him in prison.

While in prison, God was with Joseph and gave him favor. The warden put him in charge of all the prisoners. Two prisoners asked Joseph to interpret their dreams. He did. One was restored to his position of honor, the other was hanged. The restored prisoner promised to tell Pharaoh about Joseph, but he didn’t.

When Pharaoh needed his dreams interpreted, the restored prisoner remembered Joseph. Pharaoh was so impressed with Joseph that he exalted him to the number two position in Egypt.

Joseph’s brothers came to him for food. They didn’t recognize Joseph but he recognized them. After many tests, he revealed himself to his brothers and had his family brought to Egypt.

Joseph’s explanation for his kindness to his brothers, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. So then, don’t be afraid. I will provide for you and your children.’ And he reassured them and spoke kindly to them.” (Genesis 50:20-21)

God is willing to restore your broken relatioships. If you are in God, know that He is with you and will give you favor regardless of how others treat you.

Other examples of forgiveness can be found in Becoming God’s Vessel of Honor.

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Achieving Peak Performance Takes Strong Commitment

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In order to achieve peak performance you must know that you know that you know, what you want to achieve. Whether you want to achieve personal or professional success, the bottom line is you will have to have your eyes o the prize.

Your prize may very well be the dream job you have been waiting for or becoming a entrepreneur. What ever your goal or objective happens to be, shoot for the moon because you can become a star.

There is confidence in knowing you are prepared for your big moment when the time arises. The combination of commitment and preparation tends to present opportunities you otherwise would not have had.

After working for a member of congress in a fellowship program, I was prepared to take on all challenges. Having drafted language for a bill I gained incredible confidence in my abilities.

The same will happen to you as long as you think things through. Success is not surprising for people who work hard, rather it is part and parcel of achievement. The sum total of success is equal to all the parts leading to your desired achievement.

You will reach your pinnacle or the top of your field when you achieve peak performance. Peak performance is the stage of your development that puts you at the next level of your greatness. By achieving peak performance you have most, if not all of the answers.

You will know you are a peak performer when your leadership considers you the “go to” person. The go to person have their fingers on the pulse of the organization and they are the catalyst for productivity and profits.

Your level of commitment will determine your ability to achieve peak performance. I know you have what it takes to be a peak performer, so move forward and make great things happen.

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Why Men Say One Thing and Do Another

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Have you ever had the experience of seeing a man drift away from you because “he wasn’t ready for a relationship,” only to find soon after that he’s out dating other women?

The things men say vary – he can say that he’s not ready to be in a relationship, or he can say that he needs to be alone. Whatever the case, it seems that many men don’t really mean what they way – and it infuriates many, many great women all over the dating game.

Probably more than infuriating, it’s baffling. Why do men say one thing and do another? Are they worthless jerks who can’t commit? Or maybe they really don’t know what they want?

Actually, a man and a woman can say the exact same things but mean differently. For instance, when you say, “I’d like to stay home and relax,” then you’re probably thinking of doing your nails, checking out your to-do list, and maybe watch TV. But when a man says “I’d like to stay home and relax,” he’ll probably watch sports, drink beer, play video games, and order pizza for delivery.

So what exactly do men mean when they say, “I’m not ready for a relationship?”

They actually mean something along the lines of “I’m looking to be in a relationship with a woman who’s everything I want her to be – independent, easygoing, fun, and level-headed. You can be this woman, but you don’t have these qualities yet – and I’m not really interested in having to teach you all that.”

Yep – they simply don’t think that you’re the one for them.

So why don’t they just tell you?

Simple – they’re looking for a woman who already has those qualities. They don’t like having to teach you every little thing about how to be the woman of their dreams.

Let’s face it. If you were looking for a bodyguard, would you hire someone who told you, “Sure, I can be a bodyguard. But can you give me a little time to learn the basics?” Of course not – you’d much rather hire a bodyguard who already knew what to do.

Same goes with men. The better ones out there are looking for a woman who could make their life a lot more fun and enjoyable, without having to teach them anything. They’re out there looking for a “cool” girl.

And you can be a “cool” girl if you know exactly what men want – and it’s not just about sex, either.

A guy will find it a lot easier to love a woman who they can feel a deep emotional attraction to, in addition to the physical attraction. Remember – relationships based on physical attraction don’t last long, but relationships founded on strong emotional connections last a lifetime.

In other words, it’s in the chemistry. If you look inside yourself, getting rid of any bad qualities while fostering good ones, then you’ll be opening yourself up to relationships with the better men out there.

Have him beg you for a commitment.

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Relationships & Marriage – Commitment Has Nothing to do With Unconditional Love

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Recently someone told us that he wants to marry and grow

old with his girlfriend. But to his disappointment, she told

him that true love is unconditional, without expectations,

and that he should be happy just to be with her without

any promises. He said that he thinks she really doesn’t

love him because she won’t enter a legal, committed,

monogamous relationship.

He wants a “permanent” commitment, and his girlfriend

wants no conditions and expectations.

True, unconditional love includes no expectations. No

expectations of your mate to be who you want them

to be. No expectations of the relationship lasting “forever.”

No expectations of ownership. No expectations if you two

grow apart. No expectations if one of you loses interest in

sex.

We agree with his girlfriend. Unconditional love, which

is the highest form of love, involves loving someone as

they are and wanting nothing in return for that love. Not

money. Not exclusivity. Not a contract. Nothing.

If he were fully without demands and expectations and

approached his girlfriend in this way, he would want what’s

best for her, not just what he desires.

Granted, we need to look at this from his perspective

too. What is he afraid of if he doesn’t have a permanent

commitment from his girlfriend? Is he concerned about

losing her, maybe about being alone? Is he worried about

finances or perhaps about who will care for him in old age?

He needs to realize that he’ll be okay if the relationship

doesn’t last forever and that the only true, lasting love is

self love.

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5 Things That Can Completely Destroy a Happy Marriage

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Marriage is one of the most rewarding, but also one of the most challenging things you will ever do in your life. It takes commitment and patience to be happy. This article will explore 5 things that will destroy a marriage. It is good to keep these in mind so you don’t find yourself doing them!

1. Lying to your significant other

It doesn’t get much worse then this. Communication is the foundation of a strong marriage, and if you are lying, it creates a barrier.

2. Adultery

Marriage is a commitment, and seeking an affair is in my opinion the worst thing you could do to your spouse. Be faithful, your spouse deserves it. This is something that most people cannot fix.

3. Being abusive

Your spouse deserves your utmost respect, and regardless of how angry you may feel, you should never ever raise your hand to hit or hurt them. This also includes verbal abuse. Treating someone like that destroys trust and relationships.

4. Stealing money/hiding money

Openness is extremely important in a healthy marriage, and finances can sometimes get sticky. You will want to make sure that you do not hide anything, and of course you don’t want to steal anything from your spouse. This would destroy your level of trust!

5. Forcing/controlling your spouse

Being married means working as a team, and under no circumstance should you overpower your spouse and make their decisions for them. You need to remember that he or she is an adult with legitimate feelings that deserve to be voiced.

If you keep these things in mind, you will be able to enjoy a healthy marriage, where the two of you can work together as a team throughout the coming years.

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Have Casual Sex Relationships Without the Commitment

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So, you’ve met this girl. She’s cute, she’s funny and you enjoy her company in more ways than just the obvious one. And this seems like a great big problem.

On the one hand, you want to keep seeing her. It’s so much fun, of course you’d rather not stop.

But on the other hand, you’re really not ready to settle down. Perhaps you never will be. But you know that regular dates lead to relationships, and relationships lead to rings on fingers and buns in ovens, and that’s a risk you don’t want to take.

But what if it didn’t have to be that way? What if you could keep things relaxed, casual and nothing but fun for months, or even for years?

Follow my lead and you can!

Start by dodging the “am I your girlfriend?” discussion indefinitely. If you sense a wistful moment coming on, quickly tell her how happy you are having nothing and nobody tying you down. Take every opportunity you can to remind her of what a relief it is to be living a free and easy lifestyle, and flatter her by telling her you feel lucky to be hanging out with a girl so undemanding.

Keep your meetings casual and enjoyable. Choose fun, funky restaurants over the secluded, seductive ones, and stick to light-hearted topics of conversation – sharing hopes and fears will only encourage you to rely upon each other, and that can lead to involvement.

Be slightly unavailable to her. Don’t get drawn into aimless text message chatter or meandering phone calls. Let her believe you’re too busy to talk much, and phone her only to arrange your next encounter or to confirm the following day’s date – never because you’re feeling a little bit bored!

Avoid getting yourself into situations which could be seen as coupley. And I’m not just talking about romantic dinners and lengthy smooching sessions here – I’m talking meeting the friends and family. Tell her you don’t want to cramp her birthday style (a subtle reminder that you’re both still single), or that lovers meeting mothers could be seen as inappropriate.

You don’t want to meet her friends for one very simple reason: whether they like you or loathe you, your days of casual nookie will soon be numbered. Either they’ll convince her to move on and find someone steady, or they’ll start teasing her about surprise marriage proposals – and, once that idea’s in her head, believe you me, it won’t be easy to shift.

Letting her meet your mates isn’t much better. Suppose they get along? She could start popping up unexpectedly on your lads’ nights out, or they could become disapproving of what they see as you treating her wrong.

Which you’re not. If you’re honest and upfront with her there’s no need to feel guilty about keeping things casual. For loads of girls, the free and easy lifestyle suits them better – and even for those who do aim to settle down, having fun while they wait for someone steady is preferable to sitting home alone.

So don’t delete her number from your phone – give her a call, set up a date, have yourselves some fun.

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Don’t Try and Change a Man

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One of men’s biggest fears is meeting a woman who will try to change them into someone they are not. The thought of it alone is scary. If a woman doesn’t like the things she is dealing with in a relationship, she should try and fix it. If that doesn’t work, don’t waste time trying to change him because he’s not going to change if he’s not ready.

Relationships will come and go. There will be a lot of good ones and a lot of bad ones. Some, you will have a lot in common with, and others, you won’t. But accept it for what it is. It is physically, mentally, and emotionally draining trying to change a man into someone he’s not.

The funny thing about this is it’s not the women’s fault for trying to change men. It’s usually the men’s fault. Yes, the men’s fault! And to top it off, men are quick to complain about women trying to change them. Men often give off false signals. They are sweet and very romantic people in the beginning. They are very tentative and try and provide for her every need. They send her flowers, call her in the morning to say hello, and call her in the evening to say goodnight. They are doing everything right. All of a sudden… they change. This can be very confusing for a woman. She got so use to being treated like a queen that she doesn’t want it to stop. When this happens, she already knows the potential he has so she will reach out and do whatever she can to make it work.

There’s nothing wrong with women wanting a man to change, but wanting him to change and trying to make him change are two different things. Some women will go to the extreme to change a man. There are actually guidebooks out there that walk women through how to change a man. There’s a book called “A Woman’s Guide to Changing Her Man: Without His Even Knowing It” by Michele Weiner-Davis. The reviews I’ve read rated it fairly good, but to write a book on how to change your man is kind of disturbing. But what’s even more disturbing are the women who purchase it.

A woman cannot always control who she is attracted to; sometimes the strangest things happen. But if a man feels that she is trying to change him, he’s going to shut down and eventually shut her out. The more she feels shutout, the more persistent she becomes. And the more persistent she becomes, the farther and farther he will separate himself from her and the relationship.

A woman can say whatever she wants to a man, do whatever she can for a man, get all the advice on changing a man, and even give him an ultimatum, but a man is going to be who he is until he is ready and willing to change. Bottom line… don’t try and change a man.

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